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New Years Resolutions = Determination if you want it

  • 2007 - Truly Realized That Nobody is Responsible for my Success, Failures, Pain or Happiness but ME
  • 2008 - Finished College, Graduated with my B.S
  • 2009 - Started Graduate School
  • 2010 - Finally Understood the concept of Compassion & “Having a Heart’ (Self-Maturation)
  • 2011 - Started to Internalize the concept of compassion and realized….i DO have a heart, Graduated with my Masters of Science, lost about 25lbs and found a job to start my career
  • 2012 - ??? Only one way to go as a result of my determination and desire to better myself…… UP!!
Every year gets better when you TRY to make it better for yourself without giving up when things don’t go your way. My MAIN consistent attribute to making life better is to remove NEGATIVE people from my life as they are recognized(I’d always pick ME over them!) »Consistency is KEY, because without it….you are just another statistic« 
HAPPY NEW YEARS TO YOU ALL!! BE SAFE

Question : Do Ya’ll Believe in people being TOO OLD to be going through the SAME kind of repetitive relationship drama?

I can log onto a social network and see a 16 year old venting about the same thing a 25 year old is venting about when it comes to relationships. 

So I ask you…. after experiencing x amount of relationships as we get older, is there a reason to still be falling into the same traps as if we learned nothing from previous experiences? Is the desire to be wanted or the dislike of being single THAT strong to reset the human memory back to square 1?

10 Things YOU Should Stop Doing To YOURSELF as we go into 2012

10 Things YOU Should Stop Doing To YOURSELF as we go into 2012

1.Stop Spending Time With The Wrong People

2. Stop Running From Your Problems

3. Stop Lying To Your Self

4. Stop Putting Your Own Needs On The Back Burner

5. Stop Trying To Be Someone Your NOT

6. Stop Trying To Hold On To The Past

7. Stop Being Scared To Make A Mistake

8. Stop Slamming Yourself for old mistakes

9. Stop Trying to buy Happiness

10. Stop Exclusively looking to others for happiness

I will bet ya’ll $1000000000000 you will notice at LEAST a 50% boost in happiness and satisfaction in life, try it out…at least TRY

11-11-11 - Happy Veterans Day & GOODMORNING Everyone. I’m about to knock this 12 hour shift out then catch that last showing of the Immortals right after, that movie SHOULD be EPIC!!

Words of Wisdom: Some of ya’ll need to tighten up on LIFE and those “relationships” you are in. With POOR COMMUNICATION And LACK OF TRUST, do you even have a RATIONALE reason for being in a relationship like that? Its all good…you’re hoping they change one of these days huh? FAIL!

A relationship without TRUST is like having an Iphone with no service ……the only thing you can do with it is play games! And after your service has been off for so long and the bill keeps getting higher, all you can do is accept that the situation is out of your reach, switch carriers & START OVER. P.s. The AT&T Iphone WONT work on Sprint’s network……TIME TO LET IT GO!! <—- yeah, read it twice…this YOUR message.

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*Big Sean Ft. Kanye and Roscoe Dash - Marvin Gaye & Chardonnay Video*

One of the best songs on his album.

Compromise Vs. Settling

Compromisation = (ACTIONS) MUTUAL Agreement with TWO people who have the SAME GOALS/OUTLOOK where you can see a clear ladder of positive progress

Settling = (WORDS BUT NO ACTIONS) ONE SIDED AGREEMENT often filled with hope, wishful thinking and losing your identity to be with the person or you are just afraid to be single.

HUGE DIFFERENCE

13 Steps To Happiness * Guaranteed Results Or your time back lol!*

Great Blueprint to SUCCESS!! I personally practice every step.

:: The Rebel’s Manifesto

1. Do the opposite of what you were taught in school.

2. Care not for the opinions of others. They are based on their own thoughts and fears.

3. Study the work of other rebels. Steal things from them. Research with fury.

4. Forget about the competition. They are on a different path than you. Trends are for suckers.

5. “There’s nothing we really need to do that isn’t dangerous”— John Cage. Do the things that scare you on a daily basis.

6. Make a mess.

7. Embrace your darkside. Your so called “Dark Qualities” (or labels) are a source of great power. Find a way to incorporate them into your work. Feature them. Pay particular attention to what makes you angry.

8. Exercise your voice. Put your thoughts, ideas and opinions out into the world even if it scares the shit out of you (see number 5). 

9. Expand your horizons. Leave home. Visit other places/cultures. Wander aimlessly. 

10. Never limit your playtime. Even if your brain is telling you otherwise. All of your best stuff comes from it, if you allow yourself to remain open to the unknown.

11. Question EVERYTHING.

13. Follow your heart.

By: Author | Illustrator | Guerilla Artist :: Keri Smith @www.kerismith.com

Natural Disasters are Online Too!

I hope everyone is safe, I just heard about the Earthquake. Natural Disasters bring the same patterns of people: 

1. People who were REALLY affected by it

2. People who lie and claim they were affected by it just to get attention

3. People you have NEVER seen mention anything religious until they have been in or seen about one. (Where will you be this weekend though? Club or Church)

4. People who Make Fun Of It since they did not experience

and

5. People who want to 1-Up others terrible experience ( Our Cali Earthquakes are better than your earthquakes) If you didn’t lose a home, lose a family member or lose some property then you shouldn’t be “bragging” about anything, you just experienced a “shaking ground” Come on son LOL foolery!


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R- Kelly - You are My World (Michael Jackson tribute) This is NICE!!

My message of the day: TOO often, people try to figure out WHY, WHY did this happen? WHY do they act like that? WHY are things this way? There are PLENTY of things you will NEVER understand so waiting for the WHY to make sense is wasting valuable time and you are probably blocking your blessings.

FOCUS the WHY questions on yourself for once. WHY do you act like that? WHY are you not doing something DIFFERENT? WHY are you sticking around? WHY are you out here acting as if life consists of only ONE path? WHY are you holding on to excuses as reason to base your next actions on? The ONLY WHY questions in the world you can figure out for SURE are those that YOU can control on your OWN.(Your own actions, your kids and your own mentality).

Keem

WOW - She speaks knowledge!

Ladies, do we not understand the concept of dating? We are adults. Responsible sex is not frowned upon. But just because he is having sex with you doesn’t mean he is having sex with juuuust You. And just because sex is involved doesn’t make you all exclusive. Don’t trip. If its not what you want. End it. Plain and simple. Social concepts about what relationships should be like are fuckin you all up in the head. Y’all gonna end up like that E-harmony Cats lady. No on is asking u to give up your values or morals. But if your fuckin and suckin before u have a title chances are Your values aint all that great to begin with… I’m grown about mine..but I also don’t set unrealistic expectations for a “relationship”. If happens it happens. If it doesn’t it doesn’t. Now, this doesn’t mean fuck anything with a 3rd leg. But if u are responsible…..why the hell worry about social stigmas. U only have one life to live. And women outnumber men. Chances are some wont ever find a husband. So enjoy the in betweeners and quit being bitter. ——— message brought to you by Zandra Garcia